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Why is my girlfriend masturbating by spelling another boy's name?

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asked Dec 18, 2016 in Questions by dilokeen (120 points)
edited Dec 19, 2016 by dilokeen
My Girlfriend masturbates by spelling another boy's name and drawing his picture. Is this normal? Is she trying to make me feel jealous? Is she trying to excite me?

Problem is: that I also get turned on by her gestures and fantasizing about anotherr boy. What should I do in the circumstances?



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What is the age of you and your girl friend.It is obvious that she in contact with multiple partners.She is getting more pleasure from him.You should be more cautious about her.She is sailing in both boats.Will her activity will excite you or not,answer is better known to you.
answered Dec 19, 2016 by Motilal (7,130 points)
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Most of the time what we do when we masturbate is to fantasy thing which makes us excited so we can enjoy the masturbation like real sex. It does not indicate anything or it does indicate something as no one can predict why she spells out another boy’s name while masturbating but one thing is sure that such act makes her more connected with herself while masturbating.

Sometimes we fantasize our friends or family members who we find beautiful and sexy so we take their name while masturbating but that does not mean that we are not respecting our partner so you should not take it in that way. I do to fantasize my girlfriend when I masturbate and have sex with my wife but that does not mean that I am not in love with her or I do not turn on by her beauty. I do it because I can be in the act more vigorously with my wife.

Does she spell out another boy’s name when she is with you? Do you both masturbate together? If such thing turns you on then you should enjoy it and do not over analyze it. However, if she did something which makes you doubt on her then you should definitely keep the eye on her activities but if apart from this everything is great in your relationship and you are enjoying her gesture then keep enjoying it and make her happy.

At the end, I would suggest you to keep communicating with her so no drama, mix up or misunderstanding affects your relationship with your girlfriend. 

answered Dec 19, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (24,335 points)
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Hello,

If a girl is spelling out another boys name, I'm sure that that other guy is arousing her sexuality more intensely. Now it's upto you whether you want her to fulfil her desires or suppress them and stay committed to you. Be whatever the case, you can only love her as long as you can trust her.

Regards,
Sadiq Pattan
answered Dec 19, 2016 by sadiq_khan (1,035 points)
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She's not trying to make you jealous or trying to excite, she's cheating on you and telling it on your face.
answered Dec 19, 2016 by gr8gaur (1,975 points)
commented Dec 19, 2016 by dilokeen (120 points)
but surely she is not cheating .she is masturbating with his name and pic that make me horny ..she sended that vedio
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Dear D,

Please inform whether you are ignoring the whole thing or you have put some effort to manage the matter. Unfortunately, ignoring the issue won't reassure you of anything. Talking about your feelings and listening to your partner's can help you sort out the possible misunderstanding. You can be honest with your girlfriend and can ask the same of her.

Your girl friend may not be forgotten her last partner till now and she may need more time. She is the only one who can answer that question, but you should feel free to discuss your concern with her. Most boys are dreaming the porn actress while masturbating, this does not mean that they are cheating their partners.

The discussion with your girl friend may be challenging, especially since they deal with sensitive issues of jealousy and insecurity. A state-of-the-relationship discussion might be a good option. Either it will ease your anxieties and reaffirm your girlfriend's commitment and interest in you, or it will allow you to make a clean break. There are ways to initiate a potentially difficult conversation by picking a time and place where you are both calm and comfortable. You might focus on the name-calling, or you might focus on the broader relationship.

Start however you feel comfortable, keeping in mind that your partner may be as uncomfortable, if not more so, than you are about the game-time misnomer. Avoid bringing it up while in bed or on a date. You can ask her to talk with you about her perspective and her feelings. Maybe your name starts with the same letter as her ex's name. Maybe it was a brain-freeze in the heat of passion. May be she was fantasizing about another person.

As these issues are related to emotional attachment so the matter should be dealt carefully so that there should be no disturbances.

answered Dec 22, 2016 by bubu_002 (2,760 points)

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