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How do I reduce my sexual desires?

asked Oct 3, 2016 in Questions by sexedmale (130 points)
I am a 44-year old married man.

I have been introduced into sex since the age of 7. At that young age, I always had my female cousin who was 4 months older to me to give me blowjob. We used to use get into female washrooms or in between staircases to have our fling. It lasted till she got married.

At age 22, I used to visit prostitutes in health-care centres and I lost my virginity to one of the girls there. Got married at 29 against my wishes. My wife is faithful but she has very less interest in sex. Though we have 2 kids, we have sex maybe once in 3 to 4 months. I need to masturbate everyday to release my sexual anxiety. I cum twice everyday while watching porn.

I still frequent health-care centres for a blowjob or sex where possible. I always make a woman cum before I do and these women are always happy to see me. I'm also happy that I get to feel a firm body compared to that of my wife.

My question is how do I reduce this interest in sex so I can concentrate on other matters?

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Sex is a strong biological need. But you have to know how to control it. You are at mid life and should understand that when you were younger, you could give freedom to your passion and lust, but now your responsibilities have increased and your uncontrolled passion can destroy your Family Life.

Visiting prostitutes when you were 22 is acceptable though not pardonable, but doing it again when you are 44, reflects a lack of will power. The more you fan your desire for Sex, the more it will get hold of you. It would be a wonderful situation, if your libido had increased and you used this to your advantage with your wife, but you feel proud that you are able to please the prostitute. Try pleasing the prostitute without paying her fees and then see whether she is really happy to see you. It is just Business and nothing else.

Instead learn to build the bond with your wife. This will stand you in good stead all your life. Don’t just say that your wife is not interested in sex, ask yourself what effort you are putting in the relationship.

No one can help you, but yourself. Change your view of Life and Sex and you will find your answer.   


answered Oct 3, 2016 by longhands1 (78,090 points)
selected Oct 4, 2016 by sexedmale
commented Oct 4, 2016 by longhands1 (78,090 points)


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