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Is my feeling for my bhabhi just a passing fad?

asked Oct 1, 2016 in Questions by confusedlad (120 points)
edited Oct 2, 2016 by longhands1

My bhabi is a fair and a beautiful 28 years old lady, happily married to my cousin. I am just an average looking guy and my cousin brother is taller and more handsome than me.

I will not use any false information, so please dont make me a moron here :

I dont know what is in her mind as she has planted this whole confusion in my mind.

1. She started with a mild rub on my shoulder when she walked past me, sometimes she used to touch my body for some reason or the other in between the talks.

2.Whenever tea was served to me by her, she touched my fingers, accidently.  

3.One day she was there in the kitchen. I went to drink water, she gave me something to eat and touched my lips, accidently.

4. I started to have a feeling for her,  as anybody would be attracted to a beautiful lady.

5.One day she was sitting on the couch and I sat beside her and intentionally kept one hand on her thigh but she didn't respond.

6.I thought I had won the battle, so I proposed her after a few days. She outrightly rejected it, even scolded me.

7.One fine evening she told me to hold her cute little son and while taking my nephew from her, I intentionally touched her one boob, she didn't respond.

8.The very next day she stopped talking to me and I too did the same-- 2 days later she teased me with "what happend to my Gautam buddha",  coz I was also in a silent mode.

Now, would anybody please advice me whether its a fad, infatuation or a game?

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Let her be the one to give you very obvious signals. You never know if she tells her husband or anyone in the family and  you lose the face. Sometimes all a woman want is subtle flirting and nothing much. Beautiful women are used to getting attention and teasing men and nothing more. From what you've written it seems like she's leading you on but maybe in her own mind she is just teasing you. Afterall, you yourself admitted that her husband (your cousin) is tall and handsome. Only if he is poor in bed, the reason to make his wife look for other options. But I don't think that's the case. For you, its obviously very tempting to get attracted to such a beautiful woman. My advice is to test the water a bit more, continue with your silent treatment and give one word reply at most. Do this for 3-4 days and gauge her reaction. If she tries to get your attention and goes out of her way to talk to you then call on her bluff as you have already spilled the beans before. If she is normal and doesn't put much effort then you know its a dead end.
answered Oct 1, 2016 by gr8gaur (1,830 points)
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You need to come to your senses my friend. Accidental touching does not constitute a sexual advance, nor an invitation for you to make a sexual advance.

When you propositioned her, she refused and scolded you for it. Is that not enough to tell you that she is not interested in anything sexual with you. To the last word?

As the two of you living close proximity with each other, she has to maintain a normal everyday conversational existence with you. To do otherwise would leave the house and everyone in it being a very awkward place. She is aware that your intentions towards her are not honourable, but it sounds to me like she is managing the situation quite well.

You really need to behave yourself, and get out and about, and meet some girls. If you can find a girlfriend of your own, you will stop living in this dreamworld where you imagine that she is sexually interested in you.

You seem to have something of an inferiority complex. Your cousin might be taller than you, but whether or not he is better looking is open to debate. There is an old saying that says "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." If you don't understand what that means, it is this: the way somebody looks to another person is entirely dependent on the other person's own opinion of what looks nice and what doesn't. Some people may think that your cousin is better looking menu, and others may think that you are better looking than him. But it's not even important, as you shouldn't be measuring yourself against other people.

If you feel unattractive, guess what, other people will find you unattractive. Think about the positive things you've got going for you, instead of anything negative. Present yourself in the best way possible. Make sure that you are clean and healthy looking, make sure your hair is cut smart and fashionably, if you wear a beard and moustache, make sure it is well groomed and trimmed neatly. Always make sure your fingernails are clean, make sure you don't stink of sweat, or have bad breath. Make sure your clothes are clean and well ironed, and your shoes are smart and well polished. If you present yourself in a smart way, people will regard you the way you would wish them to. If you don't make any personal effort, and it would be unsurprising if people show no interest in you. I don't know, maybe you do all these things to make yourself look good, but you certainly seem to have something of a self-esteem issue. Our genetic inheritance determines how we are going to look, but if you keep yourself in good shape, that's a big plus, whereas on the other hand, if you're too fat or too thin, that's largely down to the way you eat and do or don't exercise.

I really don't have enough information about your own personal situation to say anything further on this subject. But I do want you to stop reading all kinds of "signs" in order to reinforce your own fantasy of seducing her, or her seducing you.

answered Oct 1, 2016 by sexysalma (14,995 points)
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Dear confuselad,
The role of bhabhi is like a friend to his devar and she is acting friendly ,  the bhabhi - devar relationship is unique , she have left all her friends (Boys and Girls ) and came here to stay with your family.

Here you are the only friend to her , so she may tease you, play with you even scold for wrong doings that does not mean that she wants to sleep with you .
she have not given enough indication to sleep with you .  Its common touch.

so come out of false thinking and be friendly and helpful to her.
answered Oct 8, 2016 by kapilh (1,020 points)

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