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Should I meet my Ex-boyfriend for fun, though I am married now?

asked Jun 23, 2016 in Questions by Bablinasreen (125 points)
edited Jun 23, 2016 by longhands1


I am Nasreen from Mumbai. I have 2 kids. My hubby works and is out most of the time. I am alone at home from morning to evening. I regularly go to the gym and for swiming.

Recently, I met my ex- boyfriend in the gym. I could not believe that he also stays near my apartment. He also got married. I was shocked when I met him. We just said Hi, hello to each other. I first thought I will ignore him. But now I am meeting him daily in the Gym ane we talk lke friends.

Yesterday, I was thinking about our affair and our sex life before marriage. We used to have lots of fun like oral sex.

Should I resume our affsair and go with him?

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You can proceed but with extra care as he stays in nearby apartment and u have two small kids as well.
If he really satisfies you which your hubby cant, then go ahead.
answered Jun 23, 2016 by sunnykhot (530 points)
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 Nasreen, Every one has a right to be happy. From your question its not clear how your sex life with husband is! It is clear that you have lot of idle time at your hand as well as an old flame too so you want to utilize both. And you do noy have to start it all over again . You just have to start where you left it last time. 

        Both of you are fortunate not only for meeting again but happened to be living in the vicinity .Now its mainly up to you where you want to lead this! Obviously your friend would be very much eagar to jump in bed with you . Do you think you guys would be able to hide it from your respective spouses and society? What will happen to your families if you would be caught? I am not against you or anybody having EMS or EMA at all. But one should think of the consequenses beforehand. So take an informed deecision as  many lives would be involved on your decision. Act wisely and do remember only you would be responsible for the consequenses of your actions. If you at all decide to have sex with him then you should frame  some rules and follow them, like  when you would call(time frame) who would call etc and stick to the rules .And as long as possible do not get emotionally involved. Its the most dangerous thing in any EMA that can take it to doom. 

answered Jun 23, 2016 by prashant69 (7,010 points)
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Dear babli if you still feel about him then you should go and meet him. But be careful. It should not happen thas you husband begins to have doubts on you. Nowadays, all this is allowed and happening.
answered Jun 23, 2016 by Sahilu84 (125 points)
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Hey Nasreen
    its common these day to have multiple sex partners ,even the new generation sex desires are increasing day by day,just need to understand ,isn't you hubby good at bed or is it that not sufficient what he gives,i dont say not to have relation with your X,if he satisfy & give you good pleasure you continue ,since you both knew each other very well.but plz entertain you hubby,or else he will have  an doubt on your behavior,here your satisfactions is more important my be your X is also missing those fantasy which he had experienced in the past with u.jokes a part ,always be careful & take precaution, have a good sex
answered Jun 23, 2016 by Anamika (235 points)
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Your husband works his ass off all the time for you and your kids and you are thinking about spreading your legs for your ex behind his back, how legitimate is it?

You and your ex are in different situation and different time, so do not think that you would get same pleasure, which you used to get before marriage with your ex.

If your sex life is good with your husband then just stay away from your ex and if possible then change your Gym to avoid him effectively otherwise in weak moments you would cheat on your husband with your ex and will be on the edge of destroying your marriage life for mere pleasure.

Before marriage, you were his priority but after marriage you will be just sexual object for him so do not be someone’s tool of pleasure. In no circumstances, your cheating would justifiable.

If you are unable to get enough sex from your husband, then talk to him and explain him that you need sex more often. In day time when you are alone, you can watch porn, read sex stories and finger  yourself or use some sexual toys to get satisfaction but affair after marriage always prove as a disaster so be careful and stay loyal to your husband.

However, if you feel that you can balance your marriage life and sex life with your ex then you can go ahead as no one has a right to judge you so whether to have sex with your ex or not is entirely depends on you.

If you choose to have sex with your ex then be clear and set boundaries which you both should not cross as you both are married and no emotional sting should be attached, just physical relationship. 

answered Jun 24, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (23,220 points)
commented Jul 25, 2016 by Bablinasreen (125 points)
moved Jul 25, 2016 by prashant69
Hi everyone i saw many answer thanks for suggest me but friends i m in love again my ex also same response my nature i was sex with him many times in gym backside i m very happy he is back in my life.
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Hi nasreen,

I think you should do what your heart desires. You may be married. So what? Your satisfaction should come first. I am also enjoying though I  am married. Our sexual satisfaction is also important. Only one thing. Be safe and do not share this information with anyone who is close to you.
answered Jul 27, 2016 by Shamasahil (130 points)
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Hi Nasreen....
Samasahil is correct. If you get pleasure from that guy what you not find from ur hubby  why you feel guilty. You have also right to enjoy ur sexual life.  If that guy love you a lot, care you, respect you, give proper sexual pleasure then l think you are lucky. Do not loose the frndshp of that guy. Keep it up. But do all these taking precaution.  Love your hubby, kids  and do ur duty properly. Be always happy and make happy to both ur hubby and boy frnd.
Do not care the bad criticism of others.
Best of luck.
answered Jul 29, 2016 by nneha (325 points)

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