My name is Sanjay and I am 26 years old, married leading a perfect life before but now its starting to get complicated and stressed and actually this is the first time I am asking for a soluton.
Let me tell you a little about myself. My girlfriend belongs to different sect, same religion. Before my marriage, I was in love with her and she was also my best friend. We used to kiss a lot and I have done naughty things on her boobs but we never had sexual intercourse, though she gave me green signal but still I did not because, I was planning to marry her and I did not want to ruin the surprises. Her mom is very much against inter-caste marriages, and my girlfriend loves her mom a lot and she will do anything for her.
Her mom started searching for a groom. I tried a lot to convince her mother but she used to become furious and my girlfriend made a suicide attempt but she was saved by her brother and her parents were very much depressed and her brother told me a sentimental line "Please dont take her away from us"......I was against this but I consoled her that whatever happens it is FAMILY COMES FIRST and this also applies to ME and now she is married and happily leading her life.
Now my side of the picture. I love my wife a lot and she also loves me a lot. I love the way she melts in my hands during foreplay or sex.
Now the real problem arises on meeting my girlfriend. We used to meet once a month and whenever, I mention my meetings to my wife, I can see the sudden change in her behavior, so I lied to her that 3 more friends join us. Then she will become normal. We do not do any funny business when we meet in the malls. We just hangout eating in KFC or Mcdowells or Dominos or playing games , and sometimes she holds my hand and drags me to show me something but its just casual not at all physical.
Now, it has become more complicated as my girlfriend wants to meet me once a week and she has confessed to her husband about me kissing her in the past. This led to quarrels among them because of me.
I am worried to think what my wife or anyone or her husband catches us (not that we are doing anything wrong). I am sure it will create a lot of questions in their mind or misunderstandings.
I cannot leave my wife but I cannot leave my ex girlfriend too as she shares everything only with me. I am a decent normal guy and my girlfriend is a shameless naughty girl only with me. We both trust our families and our relationship. We are also loyal to our partners.
I dont know what to do. I heard this site helped a lot of people so I thought may be I will get some solutions here. Waiting for your replies.
Thanks in advance.
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