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Dirty sex? How would you define it?

asked Dec 8, 2015 in Questions by sexysalma (14,995 points)
As one of this forums editors, I frequently receive private messages from people who are too shy to send their questions to the open forum. The other day, I received a question asking me what I regarded as dirty sex. Unfortunately, the questioner did not quantify his question in any way. It left me wondering whether he was talking about something physically dirty, or something psychologically dirty.

I gave this considerable thought, and tried to answer his question as best as I could, but it left me with a question of my own. So, what to our readers consider to be either dirty in a physical sense, or dirty in a psychological sense?

I'm conscious that these days, I seem to have quite a fan club, judging by the number of private messages I receive, and regular readers know that my own attitude towards sex is that anything goes, as long as those involved are happy participants; but I'm conscious that my views are not shared by everyone, nor do I wish to try to force anyone else to agree with me. What do our readers consider to be acceptable behaviour, and what is "beyond the pale?"



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We both are aware that Sex is played out in the mind. Dirty sex in its connotation is not about the physical, but rather the mental and psychological interpretation. The term “Talking Dirty” would be used to titillate the mind more than the physical aspect. It conjures up the idea of steamy sex and draws up images in the mind of what is to come.

Dirty sex would mean slightly different images to a man and to a woman. A man’s  interpretation of 'dirty sex' would be a woman who seems quiet and sensible and yet you get her in the bedroom and she's a kinky devil; experimental with positions, has a drawer full of toys/outfits, talks dirty etc. Dirty would be the rough and tumble mixed with a bit of oral, mixed with a bit of biting, scratching, in short a woman who would do a bit of everything.

There is the normal everyday sex, which is leisured and mechanical, that one can term as making love and then there is the sex that is naughty and meant for special days, the hardcore. The pvc, toys, paddles, bondage, the smacking, the whips, the high heels, the peeing and whatever your mind desires. There are no limitations. Only the mind can limit the extent that one can indulge the senses.   

Dirty sex, draws up visions of pornography, where there are no limits and encompasses any and all kinds of sex. So it could be sex in the car, sex in public, a quickie in the bathroom with the kids watching TV in the living room, having sex standing on your head, tying up your partner to the bed . The more risqué the better.  

answered Dec 10, 2015 by longhands1 (82,115 points)
edited Dec 10, 2015 by longhands1
commented Dec 11, 2015 by sexysalma (14,995 points)
Thank you Mr Longhands, your reply hit the nail on the head. It's good to hear a man's honest reply.

For me, the whole concept of "dirty" is a psychological mind game. As far as I'm concerned, the things that people do within their sexual practices can include anything, as long as those involved consent to it.

I am quite submissive by nature, though funnily enough, only when it comes to lesbian sex. I crave to be dominated by strong females, and the whole idea of being "forced" to do anything, no matter how degrading and defiling it might be, generates such a tremendous sexual excitement within me, I sometimes worry about how far I would be prepared to go. As of yet, I have never been pushed to an absolute limit, and I'm really not sure whether I have a limit, beyond actual physical injury. I do not feel this to such a degree when I'm having sex with my husband. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband with all my heart, and I absolutely adore having sex with him, but the need for my own sexual degradation does not exist when I am with him.

So to what extent is my craving for dirty sex a psychological issue? I don't even know the answer myself.


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Dirty sex?  Peoples always use this words for sex. But I don't think thing that release tension and pressure and give a alot joy to humans and animals would be dirty. Nothing is. Dirty when two  minds ready to enjoy nolimt sex .
    Things peoples says dirty m mad 4 it.dirty sex make humans more closer and lovable for each other. Other thn casual sex.
answered Nov 2, 2016 by Bad 1 (155 points)

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