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Should I inform my friend that another friend is flirting with his wife?

asked Aug 26, 2015 in Questions by dil4timepass (120 points)
edited Aug 27, 2015 by longhands1

If friend (c) is taking advantage of another friend (a) and flirting with his wife, Then should I (being a common friend (b) of friend (a) & his wife.) need to inform my friend (a)?

I am a very close friend to (a) and his wife. I am very confused. What action do I need to take to save future problems. I want to help them.

Please advice.


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commented Aug 27, 2015 by k.shastri (1,035 points)
I am also confused with your A, B & C.
I request you to write elaborating.

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Be very cautious, as it would back fire at you if anyone takes it wrong way or get offended. You said that your friend’s wife is good friend of yours so better to give hints to her that what is happening is some sort of advantages and more than friendly things to avoid future conflicts but you have to do it indirectly.

Flits among friends are common up to some extent. However, I have feeling that it is you, who at the end going to lose by interfering in others matter. Who knows what is going between both (your friend a and your friend’s wife) and you are unaware about the real fact of the matter. Informing her husband is certainly not the good idea so better to confront either a or common female friend who is at the center.
answered Aug 27, 2015 by alpesh kapdi (25,535 points)
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Well you kinda answered yourself-you want to help your friend.

well then help your friend.
now,you can do it right to his face in which case everyone finds out,
or you can do it discreetly ,in which case you are safe,your so called flirty friend gets fucked up[which is ok because well cmon he knew the risks when he started all this sham.]

also if you say to your friend a directly,tell him to find the proof[only if you are 100% sure those are flirt texts] or show the proof for yourself.

in all this i am assuming the wife is flirting back too.

i would say you should tell one way or the another,just to make it easy think you being the friend a ,I guess that should make you think more about it.

good luck
answered Aug 27, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
commented Aug 28, 2015 by dil4timepass (120 points)
Thanks both for giving valuable time & reply.

I have speak with my friend wife. I explain her every aspect & future problem. I asked are to tell your hubby upfront about this. Its far better than he will identify or know things. At least he will trust you in future.

After your discussion please let me know so I can speak with him and discuss this issue. I also guide him how we can avoid this without knowing the third person.

Is it good to speak this problem with my friend along with his wife. At least she will get some support. Also I can control my friends anger
commented Aug 29, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
No i feel like they should discuss it by themselves at first and if they need you ,then only join them,they will obviously need you though.

Also He should not get that angry,i thought the wife flirted back too but i didn't know she didnt flirt back so he should not be that angry at his wife and cooler than the situation you are thinking of,and you can ask him not to tell about you
although he may want you not to talk to him,but that really depends on the kind of person he really is.
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Hello, .flirting is very common these days and are often harmless..and sometimes it is needed too.
In case there is a an extra marital sex affair between them and if you are convinced of it and can prove it, it better to tell your friend. A casual affair can be understood and pardoned but if it is an ongoing affair, you should tell your friend and prove it. Living with a wife who cheats on a regular bais is dangerous.

(I divorced my wife as she developed an affair with friend of mine. My wife encouraged my driking and made me an alcoholic so that se can meet with her lover when i was dead drunk and asleep. She even used to drug my drinks.She completely destroyed my life by refusing to give me divorce for many years. Now she is living happily abroad enjoying all the sex she wants)
So study the situation well and only after confirming that they are having an affairr inform your friend, You can send an anonymous letter,to the husband,as if written by a strange man, with out any references that may revel your identity
answered Sep 12, 2015 by sumitran9 (1,640 points)
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There is no precise definition of the term 'flirting'..  It could be your imagination , or it could be you are jealous

Whatever the case, practical advise is , stay mum

You can give your opinion ONLY  if you friend asks for some advice on whats going on.. Otherwise, keep it to your yourself (if you value his friendship)
answered Jun 18, 2017 by blore.guy (445 points)

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