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Help me approach my complicated neighbour aunty?

asked Aug 18, 2015 in Questions by Djlandd (465 points)
edited Aug 18, 2015 by longhands1

I am Landd, 22 years old, male and I cannot but think about the aunty living downstairs to me. I came back home after completing college and find this woman who has newly moved to the ground floor house just beneath my first floor house. Due to her ground floor option she has extra front yard.

Dont get me wrong, I wasnt into her at all. I am not into older woman, but after staying for a month, I just cant stop thinking about her. The reason is that in a month, I observed, actually everyone observed her behaviour. I mean she is so strong mentally, she yells at the men, the  labourers whom she hired to work in her yard, thats what attracting me to her, like she is the first woman I have seen so independent and strong. I just love her.

I am not a lonely weirdo trying to bang the neighbor but really I just want to be friendly with her at the start. The problem is that I was not intrested at first, so I did not pay any attention to her. She used to look but I didnt. Girls find me handsome I know. I have a lot of female friends and all did approach me first so I really dont know how to get friendly with this aunty without letting her know I want more from her.

This is a risk because of her behaviour but I am ready for it as I am crazy for her. I need atleast her phone no. So what should I do? She goes every morning to drop her kids to school and gets them back at lunch. She has two kids and I dont know about her husbund. She comes out sometimes and I can see her from my balcony.

The problem is: I am confused if I now smile all of a sudden she would smell something fishy so what should I do to become friendly with her.

Please reply only if you can help me seduce or give me advice on being friendly rather than advicing me against it.
Thank you.


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Since you are ready to take a risk you have to start approaching her slowly and start from smiling at her, no matter what she thinks about your sudden change behavior. Try to help her in yard and begin with some suggestions. If she agrees to act on your suggestion, then take follow up and find opportunity to have a communication with her. What you want from her is not easy to get as you yourself said she is so independent and mentally strong. However, all women want emotional support and compliment of her body so if you hit her with humor then I do not think that it would be impossible.
answered Aug 18, 2015 by alpesh kapdi (25,535 points)
commented Aug 18, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
thank you for the reply,i was hoping for help by things to say to her literally.
if you can please
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What I am about to say is not for seduction. It is just normal neighborly behavior. It may or amy not help you in seducing your neighbor.

First, find out about her husband. You do not want to cause any trouble, especially when your family is with you.
you said you live on first floor and you can see her front yard. Drop something from your balcony (if possible). Drop it in the evening, after 5 or 6PM, so that you can go retrieve it - when her husband might be home. That way, you get to introduce yourself to your neighbors - husband and wife.

Second, you need patience. It is just like any relationship. You cannot rush to the final chapter. Every chance you get, maintain eye contact, or talk to her - start with pleasantries. If there are any social events in the community, attend them and try to talk to her. Do not make it too obvious that you are trying to get her attention. It should be subtle enough to make her wonder but should not raise any alarms.

If she is really interested in you, she will let you know. Until then, just be yourself and know when to back off. You would not want to be caught and face embarrassing situation. You are young and you have a chance to connect to someone else if your neighbor does not show any interest in you. So be sensible and be prepared to move on.
answered Aug 18, 2015 by prometheus4321 (665 points)
commented Aug 18, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
thank you for the reply.
the fact i ignored her at first all the time is the problem for me to get started with conversation.
apart from the dropping something in her yard if i want to start conversation how should i,tell me somethings to say to her,because i have no idea how to start her.
and believe me i am patient with this thingy,i have never seen her husband for the time yet,i m sure her husband is expired or working long away,because she literally deals with everything.
also in my 2 floor bullding the people upstairs had a fight with her and other neighbours dont talk with her,she talks with the gaurds only,that only i have seen,is that an advantage i can use?
please suggest me with convo starters like literally ,please.
commented Aug 19, 2015 by prometheus4321 (665 points)
I am not sure we can do that here. In the past, many users were asked not to seek instructions or tips to do what you are asking. I am not sure we could provide you a script, unless the moderators approve. Sorry, I do not want to be booted from his site.
commented Aug 22, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
then what can i ask here,i want some help with approaching her literally,maybe not like many starters but i can get some,i dont want to just ask a yes or no questions,
thank you
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Dear bro you are handsome,you have so many female friends so you are smart enough to deal with women with a tricky manner that she can't suspect anything from the first...
   You have not mentioned who are the other members of her have to check when she remains free at home...At any occasion or leisure you can go to her and can build a friendship by normal chatting..or if you know her full name you can send a friend request and you will chat her...send her romantic messages..and can develop a good friendship which she will not deny definitely and after more closer you can ask her phone no..You can gossip with her in leisure time at her home,help her in household things ,marketing etc...Don't try to take any sudden turn you should proceed gradually.. When she gets more closer and intimate she would definitely ask about your family,your study and love life etc..and you can ask her also..Keep eye to eye contact with her...Praise her beauty,her dresses and her activities..You can watch some movies..romantic movies with scenes of kissing,hugging etc..and simultaneously you can note her reaction and can ask her liking regarding those things in indirect manner..she has any interest in you for relationship you can detect by putting your hand on her hand or shoulder...If you get green signal after such intimacy,you can enjoy her on the bed...
    Dear friend if you are desperate for the lady you should definitely approach how much complicated she may be...If you don't be suessful in fucking her despite your all efforts, don't least you can make a adult full matured female friend.. and you must have enough experience which would help you in future to make any aunties to be your sexual partners....
answered Aug 24, 2015 by Sexy Simpram (1,285 points)
commented Aug 24, 2015 by Djlandd (465 points)
no offence to you but did you read what i explained in my details.
as i stated i definitely have many female friends and mostly all of them approached me,and all of them are my age maximum 2 years gap.
i stated she has two kids but i dont know about her husband becuse i havent see her hubby yet
also we both have an age gap of more than 10 years i am sure,so it it would be pretty weird for me to go to her house when she is alone,actually for any male to go at that time be weird as she will doubt the intentions.
i am not planning on sudden moves atall,and yes i know i would have to approach her at some time,so that is what i am preparing for,to approach her in a friendly manner as a neighbor would so she doesnt doubt me and its not normal for me to go alone or make friendship on my own at first because  like i said she has fought with every tenant in this bulding.

also thank you for your time and effort.
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Dear D,

Inspite of friendship with many girls you have desire to be in relationship with your neighbor who is 10 years old. Its quite interesting and also involved adventurous path.
Get in touch with her in various social gathering including family function or social. In these occasions she would take you as granted which would give you some indications to proceed further to approach her.
Have you gather information about her husband ? His profession ? Whether the lady is staying with or alone with her 2 kids???  This facts will decide whether she would fall in love with you or not.

1.  If she needs some emotional support then you have to break the ice and talk to her about the problem she facing. 2. If she needs help in household works and security in the society then you have to help her in that way. 3. If she doesn't need anything then you have to build a healthy relationship like a good neighbour. 4. Etc.

All these relationship end with the sex and continue till you get a lover or she come across another male.
Keep trying but clarify above queries to understand the matter.
answered Sep 12, 2015 by bubu_002 (2,760 points)

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