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My elder sister is having sex with my cousin. How to handle this?

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asked Jul 18, 2015 in Questions by nehasona (420 points)
edited Jul 19, 2015 by longhands1

I am a 20 year old girl. My elder sister who is 24, is into a very unhealthy relation with my elder cousin brother who is 30 years old. We live in a joint family of 3 sisters and 2 brothers.

I stumbled upon this some time back when I saw both of them in my cousin brother's room. She was lying nude on his bed while his head was buried in between her thighs performing oral sex on her. When I confronted my sister about it, she seemed totally non-chalant and asked me to stay out of it. She justified saying both of them were adults and it was a completely consensual relation which they are into, so it is none of my business.

I tried to make my cousin see reason but he too, told me to keep mum and not bother as all this has been going on for more than a year now and it is not harming anyone. He assured me that both of them take all possible care and precautions when they indulge in intercourse. I was too much stunned to hear all this.

I don't know what to do. Should I keep mum and just let it be or should I speak to my parents?

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Two consenting adults. Story ends there.

You are being unnecessarily paranoid/hurt. She can choose whom she sleeps with, taking safety into account.

Are you jealous of them?

Let them be. It is, truly, none of your/anyones business.

Take care.

Focus on yourself.

:)
answered Jul 19, 2015 by kinkyguy (1,415 points)
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Hi neha,

You did try to talk to both of them and both of them didn't got scared when you asked them.which means if you can inform your parents they might say something and come out of it.

I know you care for both of them so thought of informing to parents .but I would suggest for now to stay out of it.first inform them once again if you continue if will inform all...if still don't listen then try to start saying parents indirectly that something is going on....then parents might get alert and try to find themself...


Thanks
Jog
answered Jul 20, 2015 by jogv2k3 (165 points)
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Neha, Even if they are cousines fact is  consenting adults too  and legally they can do whatever they want without hurting any other person. So no one can do anything about it if they are stubborn and adamant about it. Morally it could be wrong for some persons. But no one can stop them even getting married if they want to ! 

      It would be better if you turn a blind eye towards them. Let them lead their life the way they want! Its the only sincere advice i have for you at this point of time !

answered Jul 20, 2015 by prashant69 (6,690 points)
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Nehasona,

Revealing this to your parents will only worsen the situation. As we Indians are very conservative in nature, just imagine what they would do and how they would deal with your sister and your cousin.

First, they'll have to face tantrums and even worse and then their lives will never be the same once it's out in the open. We all know how much we love spicy news. Just imagine how far this spicy incest infested news spread about. The entire colony, the entire family tree, their classmates and what else god only knows.

The relationship between your two families will never be the same. As you said you live in a joint family style, the families will start going their own ways and do things like moving to a different house. Getting your sister married will be a difficult task as we all know how well once the news is out, the looks the people give will be like. She will be tagged with names like whore, ****,***** etc.

Or even worse, if there are small kids in your joint family, all your aunts and uncles will always try to be more careful with them in bringing up by not letting the boys and girls play around and tag along with and will always keep an eye on them. Those poor kids will never know/ understand the reasons why all of a sudden their parents are starting to act like condescending assholes. We have no right to take away the joys of their childhood and freedom.

Your sister and cousin brother will forever hate you. Watch the critically acclaimed Hollywood movie titled Atonement which is based on this very topic and you'll understand the repercussions.

I think I gave enough solid reasons as to why you shouldn't reveal such things.
Best thing is to take a deep breath and have a strong stomach to digest such things. Only time will heal such things. Don't act moral police. Take some time off and hang around more with your classmates and friends.
answered Jul 20, 2015 by trueanswer (475 points)
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I know you care for both of them so thought of informing to parents .but I would suggest for now to stay out of it.first inform them once again if you continue if will inform all...if still don't listen then try to start saying parents indirectly that something is going on....then parents might get alert and try to find themsel
answered Aug 3, 2015 by BARRY1 (120 points)
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If She can religiously or legally marry, then fine.. U must keep out of it..

If the relationship is forbidden by law, family, ethics u must intervene and stop it.. Both can find other partners.
answered Jul 12, 2016 by sam028 (155 points)
commented Jul 12, 2016 by prashant69 (6,690 points)

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commented Oct 27, 2016 by ramanravi (185 points)
By chance she may not be in a position to manage and the girl is  also a young one as she may have to face some issues.
It may be known to someone else also as this girl saw or at least any one might have doubted it. As it happens in society she may not in a position to take any viperous step to stop it, in worst case she may be pulled in to have incest also. Hence it is approached in a more careful way instead of taking any bold steps
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what  is wrong in their side you must have seen so many incest relation ship going on in our country and more ever both are  taking precaution and doing it  and your age is 20 years so later on by seeing or reading other issues you will feel they are satisfying their needs .as you said talking to your parents the situation will be worst already he is fucking her for more than a year at this point why you want to stop them later on they will look for somebody for their marriage
answered Jul 12, 2016 by bijun38 (200 points)
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Under this situation you have nothing to do.Both are adults and have mutual consent in doing incestual act.Both are enjoying each other.It is wise to keep mum.if you have no objection,you may also join them.Abstain from complaining parents....ask them to do less activities with necessary precaution.
answered Oct 27, 2016 by Motilal (4,345 points)
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Its common. I have fucked my cousins when they visit durings festives or family functions. Couple of them looks very simple slim well maintained anyone will say they are virgin.  I was of the same view but when i open their cloths i was surprised by looking at their asses and chuts the hv taken many dics they confessed also so if u elder sis is fucking u also fuck ur cousins bindass mostly girls want huge cokcs with secrecy trust me dude this is world of whores u wud never know ur wife's and sister have slept with many and hv taken many lunds in ass and chuts. So u also fuck and enjoy life.
answered Nov 17, 2016 by Gentlemanadi007 (155 points)
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Don't interfere! The message is loud and clear. Live your life and don't bother unless you're very nosy in nature.
answered Nov 18, 2016 by gr8gaur (945 points)

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