swati,
We have been asked this question by our Readers many times before and you will find Answers if you type the words “first night” in our SEARCH Box on top right corner.
In order to give you a specific Answer, you should have told us if this is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. How long do you know your to-be spouse? Have you spent time together alone? What is the comfort of communication that you both share with each other? Will you be staying as a nuclear family or as a joint family? Do you both have siblings who are married?
See, there are so many questions that we need to know and so my answer cannot be a simple one. Most married couples remember their first night together and the sequence of events that night. There will be excitement, but also anxiety. There will be moments of shyness and silence.
Obviously, this will also be the first time for your spouse. So he will be as nervous as you. It will be up to both of you to put each other at ease. Do not be pressured by your family that you should have sex the first night itself. Most often, the day is so stressful due to the Reception and Religious function that there is hardly any mood and stamina for sex that night. Be open to your spouse’s suggestions and moods.
It is not all about sex that night. If this is your first time, you may need to have lubrication readily available. Have you both spoken about contraception and family planning? Do not be under the impression that one time sex, cannot result in pregnancy. Have you thought about your menstrual cycle? Will it clash with your first night?
So, it not all about what your husband will do on the first night, but for you to, to make preparations.
