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Is watching porn with partner, helpful or harmful?

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asked Apr 19, 2014 in Questions by imunique (980 points)
edited Apr 20, 2014 by longhands1

Hello members,

I am 24 years married male. We are about to complete 10 months of married life. We have a good sex life. Sometimes my wife wants me to watch porn together with her before sex.

We watched few times together. I also like to watch porn with her but I am affraid that she may compare the sex in porn with our sex life in terms of sex duration and techniques and some sex position.

So nowadays, I am refusing to watch porn with her. I request you all to please advice if this is helpful or harmful for our sex life?

 

Imunique,

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You should not afraid of such things that she will compare with you with porn actor, your duration and sex positions and that would happens if she had not sexual satisfied with you but you did not mention that she is not satisfied with you. It is great to see porn together and consider yourself luckiest husband that your wife insisting you to watch porn with her before sex. Most of the husband want to see porn with their wife but does not succeed.

Porn would play a good role in your sex life as after watching porn you will have not to do much effort to make her wet down and you can subsidy your foreplay time and can go for penetration. Porn plays the part of foreplay and makes your intercourse easy and enjoyable. If you have still doubt that she may compare you with porn actor then discuss your worry with your wife I am sure she will probably help you and you can see porn together.
answered Apr 19, 2014 by alpesh kapdi (22,120 points)
commented Apr 19, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Hi alpesh,
I mentioned that we have good sex life. And yes we both are satisfied. Thanks for reply.
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Watching Porn as couples together happens quite common . It has both positive and negative sides though . Its up to us to decide on which weighs more according the type of relationship and level of bonding and amount of maturity the couples share between them .
 - Porn  gives new kinky ideas to experiment on bed .
 - Porn helps build the initial foreplay session .
 - Porn sometimes help in mental relaxation ( tonic for the virtual mind )
 - Porn somtimes act like catalyst to enhance the sexual act between couples

Coming to the negatives . Porns are sequenced and done by professionals with so much editing and cuts , but that does seed a false impression in many couples mind
 - Feeling insecure
 - Lust because of perfectly sculpted bodies of porn stars
 - porn is an evil thing which ultimately leads both partners to become vicious in the long run

Talk to your partner and discuss this and come out with a decision and find ways to add spice on bed other than porn .
answered Apr 19, 2014 by srajesh (1,130 points)
commented Apr 19, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Hi, thanks for answer with positive and negative points.
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hey imunique,
Watching porn movies before sex is very helpful and it is considered as  foreplay. It enhances the sexual intrest of both the partners. But don't try to follow all the techniques of Porn actors. You can adopt and follow some techniques which can be enjoyable and easy to adopt.
Don't fear that your wife will compare your stamina with porn stars  your wife will also never be like porn female actors.
By the way you are a very lucky husband having a porn film seeing wife. Just carry on and maintain a very healthy sex life.
answered Apr 19, 2014 by madhusmita (225 points)
commented Apr 19, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Thanks madhusmita.
Actually she is not porn film seeing girl. but some times she tells me to see together only
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Leaving porn with your partner is fine if you both enjoy it. However, you both need to understand a bit about pornography become you start thinking that it's a guide to what your sex life should be.

I the first place, you can't take any of it seriously. The studs used in these films are not normal guys, these are the abnormally largely endowed, and have been chosen specifically for their large manhood. Most of these guys spend many hoursorkingvout to develop the muscular body to go with the big cock. The camera techs know how to use camera angles to make a large cock look even bigger. The editing done after the action has taken place is designed to give the impression that sex lasts for ages, and thievery has unlimited amounts of semen to soak the girls.  Similarly, cosmetic surgery enhances breasts and buttocks, labia, anal bleaching, you name it, the girls do it!!!!!The average girl needs a lot of training, and a lot of determination to take a man's penis into her throat, and only through a lot of preparation can she take anal sex with anything like pleasure. I and others have written on the subject of anal sex, and how to make it enjoyable for a girl, so you can research this on AA Forum.

Porn comes in every variety, from straightforward guy and girl, tiffany bangs, S&M, through to bestiality and even snuff. I'm not going to tovmoralisevin the rights or wrongs of anything you want to watch, but it strikes me as bizarre that I can turn on my TV to watch the tenvoclockvnews, and see proportions up, shot, die in terrorist attacks...... and so on, but if I want to watch sex in all it's glory, I'm supposed to be a pervert because I search for it on the web!!!! We got our morals screwed (pun intended) by the so called, moralists!!!!!

So, enjoy pornvtogethervbut dint let it malevolent of you feel inadequate.

Happy viewing  ;-))

Salma

answered Apr 19, 2014 by sexysalma (14,945 points)
commented Apr 20, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Hi salma,
Thanks for displaying the facts of porn movies. Answer is helpful
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Watching porn is good as long as it gives you both a 'high' to perform better in bed. You can always imitate the poses and spice up your sexual life. A marriage is good when there is lust between the partners. So you are fortunate that way. I don't see any harm if you both are willing to experiment.
I am sure that you are aware that porn movies are like any other movies that we watch. There are retakes and designed and scripted actions. The movies are edited. The actors stop during sex sessions and adjustments are made for better camera angles, photo shoots, etc. Otherwise, normally,a good sexual session goes for about 13 minutes. If you make it as long as they show in porn movies, it will turn boring and tiring.
answered Apr 20, 2014 by gigs4r (1,435 points)
commented Apr 20, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
I think you are right, camera techniques make porn movies longer but good sex session lasts for 13 minutes!!u are talking about any survey??
commented Apr 20, 2014 by gigs4r (1,435 points)
Yes. You may Google for it. There is a novel by Paulo Coelho by the name of "11 minutes"...this deals with the actually sexual action time of 11 minutes!
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Dear imunique,


     If you both love it watching together then why are you refusing to watch porn together. You got such a wonderful sex loving wife who is insisting you to watch porn prior to sex.

     You can go for techniques and positions as shown in porn. You are worried about stamina. But you and your wife have a beautiful bond so yiu can discuss it with her that its just porn and the reality is different.

     Dude if you are concerned about stamina then she will also concerned about her body because female pornstars have well toned, clean (maximum times without a single hair except head hair, eyebrows, eyelashes everytime). They can do anything like just inserting penis in their anus and then in mouth and then in vagina even without cleaning. But in real life its not so. You may know the consequences of doing so.

      So i think for both partners consequences of porn are same and you can't be like pornstars and thats the reality and you already accepted it. You can discuss it with her that reality differs and i think she also knows that.

     And why are you worried about timing. If you watch porn she gets aroused and get active in sex and if you hit her spot she can achieve orgasm easily. So it works also for you. Moreover you can get many kinky ideas from porn.

      So in simple words if you both feel the difference between porn and real sex then you woll always benefited by porn. And for this you should discuss it with each other. If she gets well satisfied by you then who will cares about time.Moreover she can also watch porn alone and she can compare you with porn actor. So i think its not a better idea to refuse watching porn with her. Go for it and discuss it.
answered Apr 21, 2014 by Manoj4u (6,180 points)
commented Apr 21, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Thanks manoj for your answers. But you have shown all the positive sides. But as you said we need to differentiate between real and porn, then its helpful
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iminique,

Any activity done by a couple together helps bonding. So whether it is playing a game of cards together or watching TV together or even watching porn together, builds up a relationship. Since your wife wants you to watch porn with her, that is a healthy sign as it will lead to a cosy time in bed. 

What does porn do? It builds up fantasies in the head and those fantasies when played out in bed leads to great sex. A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour showed that only 15% of couples watched porn together with their spouse. Communication about sex is an important part in a relationship and mutual interest for porn can help one's sex life.

Though porn is supposed to be mainly watched by men, women do watch porn and 17% of women have watched porn before. Men and women are interested in visual sexual stimulii, but the interest is divided along gender lines. Men want novelty, women want a stable relationship. Let your wife decide what type of porn she wants to watch and you should go along.

As long as porn does not become an addiction for your wife, there is no harm in watching it together.  Porn addicts usually spend hours in isolation, away from social contact. There are positive health benefits of watching porn together. It helps improve sex lives, attitudes towards sex, perceptions of the opposite sex and life in general.

answered Apr 21, 2014 by longhands1 (73,045 points)
edited Apr 21, 2014 by longhands1
commented Apr 21, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Thanks for answer. Actually i got the point from all answers that i have two think both the sides but it is sure that porn can act as great foreplay if we can differentiate between real sex and porn
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Hi immuqie,

I personally belief watch porn together should be avoided as there may be scenes which you would not like to perform but your wife's has a turn on and wants the same and if you neglect she may find a option to do so..

 Beside this her expectation from you will increase she would want you to last long and do all the position which may be difficult for a person ... Trust me my freind the scenes and pose shown in the porn are more of editing and camera intelligence .  I had worked as a backend technician in this industries and believe me it's all about great editing work.

So avoid watch together you may watch learners movies wherein the scenes are purely meant for education only.

Have fun..
answered Apr 21, 2014 by Headgearwale (800 points)
commented Apr 21, 2014 by imunique (980 points)
Hmm...i am afraid for that point only..expectation will increase
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Watching Porn before foreplay stimulates the excitement level. Sometimes watching porn and its actions relax the body from the tiredness as stress.

I experienced the action and its beautiful. It build a bond of love and enjoyment... It shouldnot be addicted.
answered Apr 25, 2014 by bubu_002 (2,735 points)
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WOW!! Watching porn along with your partner is really a great pleasure. Isn't it? You must really enjoy watching porn with her. Come on yaar, be bold. It would really helpful in your sex life.Believe me.It makes both horny and increases the bond between relations.So don't hesitate to watch porn with her. Go ahead. Enjoy.
answered Apr 25, 2014 by Jan Kaun (125 points)

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