Kamasutra Corner: Female Masturbation
1. Classic 4 Finger Masturbation
This is probably the most used technique. It’s simple to do and will work well for anyone that enjoys lots of clitoral stimulation. All you need to do is find a comfortable position where you can easily access your clit with your hand.
Then it’s a simple case of holding your 4 fingers together and rubbing them back and forth over your clit like in the diagram above.
As with all the fingering techniques here, the key is experimenting with the direction and pressure you apply. Some women will prefer moving their fingers side to side, while others enjoy more of an up & down motion that also covers their labia and rest of their vagina.
While the 4 finger technique is great for reaching orgasm, it’s not so good if you enjoy long drawn out ‘teasing’ masturbation. Thankfully the next technique will teach you just that.
2. U Spot
Not many people seem to know about the U Spot. It’s the area of skin just above your urethral opening and to the sides of it. To stimulate it you just need to very gently stroke it with the tip of your finger like in the illustration below. You’ll find that using lots of lube is best to help keep it pleasurable. For some women, the U Spot can extend higher than in this illustration, to right below the clitoris.
3. Fingering Yourself
I’ve covered a lot of masturbation techniques to bring yourself to orgasm that focus on your clit. However, there are also a lot of great techniques to make yourself cum that involve penetrating yourself. Fingering yourself is the easiest.
It’s a simple case of making sure that your fingers have enough lube on them, using either something like coconut oil or your own natural lubrication and then slowly penetrating yourself. While you can simply stick your fingers in and out of your vagina to find out for yourself what feels most pleasurable, I always recommend that you try stimulating your G Spot as this is almost guaranteed to give you an orgasm.
Your G Spot is located about 2-3 inches inside your vagina as you can see in the diagram and you can only find it when you are aroused as I explain in the article on finding your G Spot. So if it’s your first time, spend 10-15 minutes first getting yourself in the mood.
Now it’s just a case of stimulating it. Insert 1 or 2 fingers and use the tips of them to press it, massage it and rub it.
4. Love That Shower Head!
If you haven’t yet used a shower head or faucet to get off then you are missing out! While it’s not exactly a standard masturbation technique, it feels incredible, yet quite different. All you need is a faucet that you can maneuver your vagina under so that the water can freely flow over it or a shower head that you can direct towards your vagina.
Everyone that tries it reports that the running water feels wonderful and can help you get off very, very quickly. So experiment with the settings on your shower head to find out what feels best. Quick Hint: You may find that the ‘pulse’ setting is best
5. Delightful Dildos
This last masturbation technique doesn’t involve your clit at all. Instead you’ll be using a dildo to masturbate with and reach orgasm.
The In & Out - The easiest way to masturbate with a dildo is to simply push it in and pull it out of your vagina, over and over. However, if you angle it a bit, then you can hit your G Spot & A Spot which will be a lot more pleasurable.
Using Your Dildo On Your G Spot - you first need to be aroused to hit your G Spot. Once you are, then you simply need to angle the dildo so that it’s making direct contact with it. You can see the angle that you need to make from the diagram below. Just remember that you really only need short, shallow strokes to hit your G Spot. It’s about 2-3 inches deep.
Using Your Dildo On Your A Spot - If you’d prefer to go deeper with your dildo, then you’ll hit your A Spot, also known as your anterior fornix. Make sure you are careful at first as you might accidentally hit your cervix when looking for it, which is very painful. If you are having trouble finding it, then you may need to experiment with the angle of penetration a little bit until you find it.
You can see in the illustration below that your A Spot is located much deeper in your vagina, very close to your cervix. It’s location is called the anterior fornix erogenous zone or AFE.
6. In Da Hood
Some women have a super-sensitive clitoris. So sensitive in fact, that it can almost be painful to touch. If you are one of these women, then you may find that using any of the masturbation techniques that have been described above to be too uncomfortable…and possibly even painful.
If that’s the case, then instead of applying pressure directly to your clit, you need to instead use your clitoral hood as a buffer. That’s the flap of skin just above your clit that covers it. I’ve indicated it in the illustration above with a slightly darker shade of pink (in real life your clitoral hood has no distinct color). So if you have an overly sensitive clit, then try rubbing your clitoral hood instead of your clit. You’ll notice that it’s a lot more pleasurable.
7. Hood Life
Now, you may happen to be someone who suffers from a lack of sensitivity and so need all the rubbing, grinding, touching & stimulation you can get on your clitoris. No problem, to allow yourself to stimulate your clit more heavily, you’re going to need to expose it more. It’s easy and the demonstration above should be all you need to expose it.
As you can see, by placing your fingers above your clit and on either side of it, then slowly pulling the skin backwards, you will pull back the clitoral hood and expose it much more. Now you can use your other hand or a vibrator to stimulate it directly.
The featherlite technique is just like it sounds, it involves a ‘feather light’ touch. It’s best to perform the featherlite technique while lying down in bed, with your legs spread open. You’re then going to use just one finger (usually your index finger) to gently apply the tiniest amount of pressure to the very edge of your clitoris as demonstrated in the diagram below.
You’re only going to move your finger a few millimeters back and forth making sure to apply only the slightest amount of pressure to your clit. Many women report that it just feels too frustrating and they can’t keep doing it for long, that it feels like they are teasing themselves, while others report that the longer they do it, the better it feels.
At least try it and do your absolute best to hold out for as long as you can, making sure to always use the very least amount of pressure possible.
9. Humping & Grinding Your Pillow
Many women first learn to masturbate through humping or grinding on their pillow. It’s perfect for stimulating your clit and labia at the same time. You’ll find that you get most friction, stimulation and pleasure if you are wearing your panties or nothing at all while grinding yourself off your pillow. Here are a few different ways to do it.
10. Vibrator Time
Vibrators can give you the most intense orgasms…but beware they can end up making your clit feel a little sore if you use them too much.
Everyone has their own personal preferences but here are a few ideas to get you going:
If you are using a vibrator to masturbate play around with it and see what gives you the most pleasure. There is no “one size fit all” method to using a vibrator to orgasm.